"Jewels" I'm Learning from Colossians

Have been studying in the book of Colossians for a few weeks now. Have not been as diligent to study daily but I'm working on that!
This morning, as I sipped my hot coffee while studying and praying on the screened porch in the early morning coolness, I read these words. Col. 4:6 "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you know how to answer each one..." In the Spirit-Filled Student Bible ( yes, me, a student at 61 years of age, really liking reading in this paperback NKJ version with World Wealth and all the extras and it's so easy to handle) I came across a section expounding on this verse. The words that caught my eye were these. "People judge us by our words." Hmmmm.... "PEOPLE JUDGE US BY OUR WORDS." Our words, as Christians, should be godly, "sensitive", "gracious", "loving", "uplifting" and should glorify God. As I'm reading this and pondering this, several thoughts came into my head.  "speak the truth in love", "put off arguings", "get rid of crude humor, dirty jokes, etc." I also thought about HOW we say things! People really do judge us by what we say and how we say it! I know I do. Someone can be thought to be a strong Christian, godly, prayer warrior, etc. but if their words come out soaked in arrogance, I think twice about their relationship with Christ. I choose not to be around them. It's like that saying, "do as I say, not as I do", which is not a good witness to anyone. It's also like the trend going around, hopefully NOT going around anymore, that Pastors could cuss, speak crudely from the pulpit and that was okay. Okay, for me, it's NEVER okay to speak that way, especially if you are a Christian and especially if you are a teacher of the Word. (I do know pastors are human and can make mistakes and I certainly don't hold that against them, but it should not be a lifestyle.)
We can choose to speak in love, in grace, seasoned with salt, or maybe we should just keep our mouths shut.
Examining myself today and my words.

(For the record, I don't personally know a pastor who speaks that way but I do know quite a few believers, some in ministry who think nothing of crude humor. This is really a pet peeve of mine!
I just don't see Jesus acting this way! Okay, I'm coming down off my soapbox!)